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Before I had my own blog (was that really just 2 weeks ago?), I didn't comment much on other people's blogs. I read a bunch regularly, was often amused and interested, and on occasion, when I really felt compelled, would comment. The only exceptions were places I started to feel very comfortable or know the blogger IRL.

Reading blogs felt like I was listening in on other people's conversations, or even sneaking glances in other people's journals. Hmm, I think the conversations is a better analogy. To me, it felt like people were sharing bits of their lives with their friends, who would respond in the comments. But these people didn't know me. I would be an interloper, just randomly commenting. I felt like they would wonder who I was and why was I jumping in.

I'm not a shy person. In fact, I will jump in on people's conversations around me("Oh no, it's raining out there?" and "It took you how long to get into work?" were recent jump-in comments I made on the elevator last week). It's even a bit of joke in my family, how I'm such a wallflower. But still, even when I jump in on a conversation, I usually back right back out unless invited to stay by look or return comment. And that's just not really how blogs work.

And, I will admit, I've been a bit intimidated by some fellow bloggers. I said this to my husband, and he was surprised. "It's not like you to be intimidated by anyone," he responded. But some people are just so popular or seem so cool or so different (I won't link here, because I don't want anyone to take offense to me saying they are different, even though I mean it in a good way cause I like different) or have so many other commenters. Yes, I was intimidated.

But ever since I started my own blog, I have been commenting a lot on other sites. This is for a couple reasons. I personally love getting comments. I'm putting myself out on there for the whole internet world to see. And I'd like to know what people think about what I say. Besides, I'd rather have a conversation than a monologue. I have to assume (although you know what they say about assuming...) that others feel the same and would like to hear from their readers.

Also, I finally feel like I'm not some Great Unknown Commenter. If people read my comment, they can track me back to my blog and see who I am and that I'm not some Crazy Weirdo Internet Stalker. I'm just another mom, going through the same things.

Okay, maybe I'm a little crazy and weird, and maybe no one else feels the same. I guess I won't know for sure unless people comment...

(Totally off topic, but here is an interesting article about testing toys for toxins. Check it out.)

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Becoming Mommy said…
Thank for commenting on my Blog! I didn't know anyone ever read it. Love your take on the sleep haze...I've been semi-insane lately with mine.
Beware.
I drive in the DC metro area and I have an infant!
OneTiredEma said…
I also love the conversational aspect of blogging/commenting. I jump into commenting far far more online than IRL, where I am a bit of a wallflower.

I just feel like I can't always keep up, you know? Read/comment on everything I want to and take care of my kids/husband/house/self :-) not enough hours in the day.

But I am slower to process than most...
ImpostorMom said…
Haha, that last little bit is so funny cause when I read "I'm not some Crazy Weirdo" I raised my eyebrows a little. Cause you know, you are in fact a crazy weirdo but the good kind. :P

I totally get the whole intimidated thing. I feel the same way a lot of the time. I think you get comfortable with a few people and that makes it less intimidating.
Don't LIE. We all know you are a crazy internet stalker who just decided to start a blog.

HAHA. Just kidding.

:)

I'm far from cool, seriously. I won't go into it, but I get happy when I can wear the exact same outfit two days in a row because that means one less thing to think about.

That, my friend = not cool.
caramama said…
motherhood uncensored: you are cool to me. Anyone who is also known as the Mominatrix just has to be cool! ;)

Now, I will stalk you a little more...
Anonymous said…
now I stay in touch..

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