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Missing Cosleeping and the Challenge Begins

The challenge at Ask Moxie is on! Check it out and join in, if you want! I did.
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It looks like our co-sleeping days are really over, and I'm sad.

For the Pumpkin's first 6 months of life, she slept in our room next to my side of the bed, either in a swing or the Arm's Reach Co-Sleeper, for part of the night, and in bed nursing and cuddling me the rest of the night. At 6 months, during a miserable sleep regression, we moved her into her room and changed our routine a bit. If When she woke up before 2:00, Londo would get her and rock her back to sleep. When she woke after 2:00, I would bring her into the bed the in the nursery with me and nurse her back to sleep. We would co-sleep until she/I was up for the day. This worked pretty well for us.

At times, the cosleeping was frustrating, but usually it was pretty wonderful. I loved being close to her and sleeping with her cuddled to me. I also loved being able to go back to sleep while she nursed and dozed until after 6.

Lately a wonderful thing has happened. The Pumpkin is pretty much sleeping through until morning! She will wake up any time between 5:00 and 7:00. It is great, and Londo and I rejoice!!! But... Even when she gets up at 5, there is no more nursing her back to sleep. No more cosleeping. And I miss it.

Luckily, she will probably go through another horrible sleep regression (I think there is one right before 55 weeks) and will wake throughout the night and we will probably have to figure out how to cosleep again so we can get any sleep. Hurrah!!!
Please note that sarcasm should be heard while reading this last paragraph. Just in case anyone wasn't clear.

Comments

ImpostorMom said…
Yeah, we had a rough time of it right after that 1st birthday until just recently when I put the ban on eating at night at all. We have different philosophies though.

The point is, you'll probably get another chance at cosleeping. :P

It never worked for us so I'm happy Boog is finally back on track with the sleeping.
Becoming Mommy said…
It's always good to read how your sleeping situation is going because I can see that Sasha is following right in the Pumpkin's footsteps in sooooo many ways.
rudyinparis said…
Hi Caramama,

How is it possible that I spaced your having a blog??? Looking forward to reading through your posts. I always really appreciate your kind & thoughtful comments at Ask Moxie.

(Oh, and for us, Eldest--age 4 1/2--until just recently would get into bed with us in the middle of the night after going potty. Increasingly, she sleeps through the night without needing to go to the bathroom, and so subsequently she's not in our bed. I knew I would miss it--and I was right.)

Best,
Rudyinparis
Karen said…
Yeah for sleeping through the night!
Oh, not to worry. You'll get the cosleeping back again. TRUST ME!

Since you seem to really miss it right now, how about we trade kids for a few weeks? You can get your fill of cuddles and co-sleeping and I can get a dose of sleeping through the night. Sounds like a perfect arrangement.
Cloud said…
Yipee for Pumpkin sleeping through the night. Maybe you can get your snuggle quotient filled during the daylight hours!

I'm jealous, because we're in the midst of a pretty bad regression. We hope we're coming out of it now... last night our Pumpkin only woke up twice.
caramama said…
Of course, the next night she woke up at 4 and then for the day at 5:30. Still no cosleeping though.

rudyinparis - I'm so glad you found me! I love your comments on Ask Moxie, too. I hope you come by often!

BBM - I saw your post about how you are sleeping in your bed. Alexis is more than adorable, but I'm not so sure about a "toddler helmet." :-)

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