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Oh No!

Heaven help me, the child has learned to say "No." Not just babble it or say in now and then, but respond with "No" for every. thing. you. tell/ask. her. She has also discovered that it is fun to run away when Mama or Daddy tells her to come. She's adorable and such a supergenius, but this defiant, indepence-asserting stage is no fun for us parents at all.

I just keep repeating to myself that it's just a phase... it's just a phase...

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MommyEm said…
Uh oh...did Dorothy teach her that skill? I apologize if she did! Pumpkin taught Dorothy "nana" for banana and she is running around making the "more" sign, although she doesn't really seem to want more of anything, just likes making the sign. Speaking of defiant, independence-asserting, I took our camera away from Dorothy today and she looked at me, almost stamped her foot, balled up her little hands into little fists, and went "OOOOOUGH!" Yikes. Ladies and Gentlemen, I think we have a temper.
Tranny Head said…
My 10 month old does something similar . . . but it's a high-pitched whine.

And it sucks.
My Buddy Mimi said…
I think I saw "favorite word becomes 'no'" on a baby milestone chart somewhere. So at least you are making some progress :-)
paola said…
It's a phase for around 20 years I guess and then she'll grow out of it, you'll see.
If it's a phase, it's a loooooooong one. Have fun!
Cloud said…
I'm sure she says "No" in a completely adorable way....

Our Pumpkin recently learned "up". But so far, she hasn't figured out that she can say that while standing at my feet with her arms upstretched to maximize the interruption factor of that move.
Becoming Mommy said…
Welcome to the club, Cara! It's kind of a crappy club, but so be it.

I think "No" was Sasha's 3rd word. Right after "hello" and "Dad".

Except it's not "no". Its "no...NoNONOONONONOOOOOOOOoooooOOOOOOOOooooOOOOOooooo!!!!! AAAAAEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEIIIIIIIIIII!!!!" to be accompanied by falling on the floor, arching his back, and kicking and punching.
Sharina said…
I’m with one of the previous commenters: if it’s a phase, it sure is a long one. I saw a shirt once that says “Hi. My name is NO.” And I think that describes this “phase” to a tee (pardon the pun). My son has recently learned how to say “uh-uh” instead of no. That’s a little better because he hasn’t turned “uh-uh” into a long screeching whine yet.
Don Mills Diva said…
It IS just a phase and she'll grown out of it and into another that will drive you equally batty!:-)
- Dana said…
Haha! Our little girl's favorite work is NO. We tried so hard not to say it around her or too her (using alternatives) and it happened regardless. The funny thing now, being 20mos she's throwing in an occasional YES. We get one YES to every 20 NOs. It's progress. My favorite though is when she sweetly says "Noooooooowwwaaahhh?" with almost a question to it. It's REALLY hard not to laugh.
La folle maman said…
Sorry, can't say I have any words of advice other than to say I, too believe I've seen that as a "milestone" somewhere in one of the many books.

Monkey has recently learned how to "dead weight" himself and throw himself backward when he doesn't want to be carried or held anymore. Which would be fantastic when my back hurts but not when I have to carry him to his crib or the high chair, etc. Is that just a phase too?! And does it end prior to the NO phase? Probably not. :P
OneTiredEma said…
AM started to say "nah" for no at some point, but it was so recently that I barely took note.

The speech therapy grad student actually asked my permission to try to teach him to say "no," which I thought was hysterical. You don't get to 21 months (esp under the reign of an older sib) without having a multitude of ways to express dismay/disatisfaction/NO--even without words.
Karen said…
If's a phase. They usually outgrow it before they're married.

Just kidding.

Sort of.
ImpostorMom said…
hehe, Boog says No while shaking his head Yes. So I suppose No is his answer for everything.
Shellie said…
How cute, she's asserting her independence and separating herself from the parents, right on cue. It is a very long stage, but if you don't overreact, and give her plenty of good options to say yes to, it won't be too awful. Probably. Maybe. If she isn't a rebel without a cause. :) Don't be scared. It's actually a good thing she knows how to say no, someday hopefully she'll say it to drugs and other such crap.
Colleen said…
yeah, I think Gavin finally got out of that phase...uh...well, he's just starting to get out of it. Although with his speech/auditory issues, he uses "no" as his knee-jerk response when he doesn't understand your question...although when it sinks in, he's usually responding differently. :) But the defiant "no" started letting up around 3 or 3-1/2. Sorry!

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