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Question of the Week - I Wish I Was Better About That

I like to think that in general I'm a good friend, family member and worker. But I know I'm not perfect. And in some areas, I'm waaaaaaaay off from perfect. Mostly, I'm okay with my faults, as they are a part of me and at least I own up to them. But there are some areas of etiquette that I really wish I could be better about, and yet I continue to be bad at them.

So this week's question of the week is what do you wish you were better about doing?

For me, it's things like responding to others. I'm bad at thank you cards, which my mom reminded me recently because I need to send one to my Grandma. (For all those gifts that people have given me and the Pumpkin, I really do appreciate them even if you never received a card!!! Maybe you can consider this the thank you?)

I'm bad about responding to email that people send me, at least right away, though I usually do eventually. I'm also bad about posting on topics in a timely manner when people ask me to write about something or I say I'm going to write about something.

I'm bad about keeping in touch with good friends via email or phone or even seeing in person. I mean to keep in touch better, and I don't know why I can't seem to. My friendships that have lasted the longest are the ones where people don't seem to mind how bad I can be about keeping in touch and just jump back into our friendship even if it's been months since we've talked. (And let me just say, thank goodness for Facebook, since I can at least keep in touch tangentially.)

I'm bad about responding to comments people leave me right here on my blog. I wish I could respond to all of them, but I don't. I especially wish I was better about saying hi to new readers/commenters. Those who have delurked on my blog and I never said hi? I say hi now! I always notice and appreciate your reading and your commenting. I mean to say hi and welcome and nice to hear from you again (that's to NoTimeToTalk, whom I met IRL and think it's neat that she's now reading my blog) and all that good stuff, but I am just bad about it.

I don't know where the intention breaks down from the doing, but it does. I hope I'm forgiven for it by, well, everyone. At times I'm forgetful and I procrastinate and I just don't follow through. I wish I was better about that, and I've tried to be. But I still just am not.

How about you? What are bad about that you wish you weren't? You can let it out. I won't judge. Heck, I probably won't even respond!


Don Mills Diva said…
I wish I were better about holding my tongue until I calm down. I have a pretty bad temper but it never lasts - I just need to let it pass before I open my mouth a lot of the time.
zaimee said…
In my online life I am bad about noting people. I am a lurker of blogs, diaries and facebook. IRL i am bad at follow through. I am a thinker in terms of ideas. I come up with some great ideas but when it comes to "doing" i am not a doer. I have to force myself for the most part although every so often I have to do something but by then it's usually such a large project that I lose steam halfway through. So i wish I was more of a doer.
Katie said…
oo, thank you notes, I'm terrible at those! I still haven't finished them for my wedding gifts, and that was going on three years ago now, let alone anything since.

I'm also bad at keeping in contact with people, but my friends are too, so we forgive each other that one.

I also wish I was at all good at day-to-day housework; I'm not, though. Maybe I can teach my kids when they're big enough?
Shellie said…
I'm terrible at all those things and more. I space out a lot on my family when they are talking to me, I am hopelessly disorganized and distracted. I lose my temper too often and just want to bang my head against the wall after, other times I hold my tongue when I really should have said something, but I was afraid if I did I wouldn't be able to control myself, so I just looked like a deer in headlights and changed the subject. I wish I could follow through on tooth fairy payments and chore charts and on and on... I usually feel fine about all this, because usually, I can't remember what a mess I am five minutes later.It's sort of a blessing being an airhead.

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