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Our (Sort of) "Babymoon"

Before the Pumpkin was born, I had heard of people taking "babymoons," which were supposed to be like honeymoons except for before a baby comes. Londo and I didn't see the need for this prior to the Pumpkin. After all, we'd had over 9 years together before the Pumpkin was born. I'm very happy to say that we had kept the romance alive all those years, even during the 2 plus years of trying to conceive and the fertility treatments. In addition, after our miscarriage and prior to restarting the fertility treatments (with which we got pregnant with the Pumpkin), we took a Carribean cruise together because we needed to get away and have a vacation together. So there was really no need for a "babymoon."

This time, however, things are different. Londo and I are constantly exhausted from the months-long sleep regressions that the Pumpkin goes through. We are really busy with work, and (here's an understatement) winter is not my best time of year. We have too much to do, and not enough time together. Top it all off with another baby on its way, and we needed an adult getaway!!!

So this last weekend, we went to Atlantic City with another couple who are good friends of ours, and another couple drove over to hang out and stayed Saturday night. I will admit that we knew going away it wouldn't be a true "babymoon" in the sense of a romantic getaway for two. But we left the Pumpkin (and dog) with my parents, and we spent time with other adults and each other. Londo got to play poker, and I got to go to the spa and get a much needed massage.

And the best part of all? Londo and I got to sleep in a bed together just the two of us (no toddler, dog or cat!!!) and cuddle and be close and sleep through the night!

It wasn't a perfect "babymoon" or even romantic weekend. I was still pregnant and tired and achy, and Londo was still destressing and spending guy time with his buddies. But neither of us even brought a computer or work with us. We didn't have to chase any toddler or deal with nighttime fussiness. We spent a weekend with just adults. It was really what we needed before this next baby comes!

And we're going to a wedding down in Atlanta in April, just the two of us! We are leaving the Pumpkin with my MIL and FIL. I will be really pregnant at that point, so we'll see how much fun I can be. But it will be April and I'll have more energy. And it will be another adult getaway before our lives become even more chaotic.

Comments

ImpostorMom said…
Wait just a minute there, did I just read that you are going to be in ATL in April!? Why am I just hearing about this?
Cloud said…
We did a babymoon, but really, it has been the post-baby getaways (courtesy of my parents) that have been the lifesavers.

I'm glad you guys had a good time!
I'm Not Skippy said…
This one place we've been over-protectiveish parents. . . we haven't left our little monkey alone overnight yet.
Anonymous said…
I always thought a babymoon was the first two weeks AFTER the baby was born... someone else takes care of housework, food prep, etc. and you spend lots of time focused on bonding with the baby.
HeatherY said…
It's great that you and Londo finally got some much deserved rest! Sleep alone is well worth the trip!
woo hooo for some adult time away. I can't wait for our first overnight away trip :)
Kristina said…
yeah for massages, I am ready for another!
Trannyhead said…
That sounds like fun! I'm especially jealous of the massage!

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