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Question of the Week - The Things They Remember

I was driving the kids to school the other day, and we passed by a car that was pulled over by a couple police officers. My daughter said that the police were helping the person whose car was broken or out of gas. I went ahead and told her that they had actually stopped the car because the person in the car had done something they shouldn't have.

So of course the Pumpkin says, "Hey Mommy! Remember that time when the police man pulled you over because you were going to fast?"

Yes, yes I remember. But why must she remember? And why must she bring it up every few months? Grrreeeaaaat!

She doesn't remember the nanny we had for the first 2 years of her life and then the next year for her brother. She doesn't remember the last trip to the zoo. She doesn't remember having adenoid surgery and the wonderful care we gave her after. The girl can't even remember if she brushed her teeth 10 minutes later!

But she does remember the one time I got pulled over for going a little too fast (though at a completely safe speed) trying to get her to school on time.

This week's question of the week is:
What does your kid(s) remember that you wish he/she/they would just forget?

It's often the bad words they remember, or the thing you said that you don't want them to repeat, isn't it? I'm just hoping that she is also remember all the wonderful things I do that show what a good, upstanding citizen I am. Not the time I cursed or got in trouble with the law!

How about your kid? Does she remember the time you flipped out when she pushed the boundaries too far? Does he remember the time you forgot to bring something he needed for school? Do they seem to forget things you think are important but don't let you forget the time you made a mistake? What do you wish your kid would just forget already?


paola said…
of course they remember the 'memorable', and being loving and caring and kind is so much the norm that it isn't very memorable at all. I'd worry if my kids remembered that I gave them a kiss or told them I loved them. It would mean that I didn't doit enough.

Noah remembers the time I hit him witha plastic spatula that broke( he was about 3). Not that I beat my children with plastic spatulas. He was dangerously climbing onto the kitchen counter towards a hot pot and I happened to have a spatula in my hand and hit him with it to get his attention. Of course it broke, which got his attention, and stopped him in his path. He wasn't hurt, or frightened, but the memorability of the event must now be branded into his memory.
MommyEm said…
I have a slightly different twist on this, for I wish Dorothy would forget things the nice/sweet random things I do for her that she sets to memory and then expects daily. Give her something she likes once and in her mind it is set in stone and worthy of a tantrum if she doesn't get it. It makes you think twice before doing something new and that isn't a good feeling.
Anandi said…
T is 2 and we have, on occasion, indulged her and let her watch a bit of TV. (We're generally a no TV family.) So now, without fail, every weekend, she asks for TV. Sigh.

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