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Cara Bambina - By Yourself

Cara bambina (and you are still my bambina),

I can't believe it's started already. You are not quite 1 year old yet, and already you want to do almost everythings by yourself. You want to hold your water cup by yourself, get the toy yourself, go up the stairs yourself, do just about everything and go everywhere by yourself.

It is hard for me to stand back and let you do things on your own already. You are still just learning about the world and figuring out how to do thing. When you can't do something yourself, you get frustrated. So I try to help, but lately that frustrates you more. I just want to help you, but I know I need to stand back and let you figure it out by yourself. I guess I didn't realize you'd be at this stage so soon.

We are all muddling through this as we go along. Hopefully, we will be able to find the right balance of helping you, letting you do it by yourself and keeping you out of things that you shouldn't get into--and that last one I'm sure will be the hardest part of all!

Ti amo con tutti cuore,


Don Mills Diva said…
There's a poignancy to watching them grow that is impossible to explain and yet universally felt by of us mothers...
You are wrong if you help. You are wrong if you don't help. That's just the way it is, sadly. Enjoy!
Cloud said…
Oh, we've hit this stage, too. She wants to feed herself (very messy) and hold her own water cup (she's better at this). It is a funny mix of pride and sadness you feel at these things, isn't it?
ImpostorMom said…
Boog seems to go through phases of this especially with feeding. Sometimes he's fine if I feed him sometimes he only wants to do it himself. He's starting to get the whole utensil thing so maybe we're on the way to eating everything by ourselves.

They grow so fast don't they?

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